2016 dating rules
I only recently learned about this one, but haven’t we all experienced this? This happens when someone is gone from our lives for a long time, but then suddenly pops back into it to “check on us.” However, we know it’s because that “something new” they went chasing didn’t work out after all.
Then there’s the newest term I learned, known as “benching.” We know we’ve been benched when we’re dating someone who only calls us when something better isn’t on offer.
This person isn’t trying to get us to update our relationship status; no, we’re just riding the bench, waiting for a chance to play.
There you have it—“Dating for Dummies” summed up in four terms: ghosting, hovering, zombie-ing and benching.
I just want to know: Is there “Intuition for the Intelligent? ” I don’t care what term we give it, but I’d like to see a trend of terms that describes an dating culture.
Wouldn’t it be a novel experience to date without the artifice? Because I like who I am—and I want the person I’m with to be crazy about me for me, not for some idea of me or some version of me they hope I’ll change into one day.We could be completely upfront about who we are, without trying to hide our true selves for a later time. An interested party could learn a lot about who I am just from reading my work. Wouldn’t we all revolutionize the dating game if we were more interested in connecting rather than conquering—if our focus changed from impressing to just being present? I’m not interested in any of the dishonesty that seems standard in the dating environment.