Americans dating israelis
A 32-year-old literature professor at CUNY, Schwartz came here from Israel seven years ago and was enchanted by the gentility and ladylike manners of American women; but when it came to dating them, he kept smashing into invisible walls. “Every little thing you do or don’t do is judged — from the particular vocabulary you use, to the money you spend, to the frequency of your calls.You are constantly put to the test.” Compared to Israeli dating, where things are generally taken at face value, this was very difficult, he said.Goodbye.’ On one hand, great, I’m glad we made a clean cut. Batya (who asked that her full name not be used) came to New York with her Israeli fiancé at 28, to “make big money” as a cosmetics saleswoman; the money turned out to be kind of small, and her engagement disintegrated amid fights over the rent. ” Since relationships here form much more slowly than they do in Israel, Batya was frustrated by the pace, and would often move on before the third date.
“In Israel, there isn’t so much drama about every little thing ...
maybe because, you know, we have bigger fish to fry.” Miller, 30, a native New York author, was attracted to Israeli men for their no B-S approach, as she put it, their general readiness to settle down, and their relative maturity (“After the army, Israelis are men; Americans stay frat boys for a while”).