Books on dating and self esteem
To fill this emotional void, we turn to the world for approval.This behavior illuminates the source of all negative emotions and interpersonal conflicts.Our self-worth is therefore dependent on others' opinions.When we depend on others for validation, we become tense and vulnerable, as we over-analyze every fleeting glance and passing comment.The more self-esteem we have, the more we are whole, as receiving is a natural consequence of giving.It does not matter how much respect and adoration we receive; we are like a cup without a bottom: the moment we stop receiving this undivided attention, we are as empty and as thirsty as we were before.Yes, there are moments of fleeting satisfaction, but ultimately we remain empty inside.Our self-esteem has a direct impact on the quality of our relationships.
The acceptance and recognition that we crave comes in the form of respect.
We erroneously believe that if only others would respect us, we would be able to respect ourselves by converting the adoration and praise of others into self-love.
A healthy sense of self-esteem endows us with the ability to give.
To the degree that we do not like ourselves, we cannot receive, we can only take.
Emotionally healthy people generally have positive relationships.
Conversely, those who don't seem to get along with anyone are often emotionally unstable.