But reality is far from what is portrayed in the movies, and the romance movie genre is one of the worst offenders.
Do you really want to be dating only part of a person? Someone who is so needy of your attention and affection that they latch onto you and just won’t let go? When you think about it this way, it becomes obvious — of course you don’t want that kind of man. Men want a woman who knows who she is and what she wants in life and is confident in herself and her abilities. We all have our faults, but being complete means you understand these faults and know they are yours and yours alone.
Then your love for each other will naturally grow as you do what makes for a truly great, long-lasting relationship — complement each other.
So instead of looking for someone to complete, and for someone to complete you, be complete in and of yourself first.
When you bring your complete self to the relationship, instead of having the relationship or your partner define who you are, then you’re able to really recognize if you’re compatible with the person you’re with.
When you bring your complete self to a relationship with someone who is also bringing their complete self, you can then use the much more appropriate phrase, “You complement me.” While that phrase surely won’t sell as many movie tickets, it’s a much better route to a real-life happy ending.
If you can separate your own complete self from the relationship and your partner, you’ll be able to love him for all that he is, his complete self.
This kind of support will naturally bring out the best in him and in you.
It also doesn’t mean your partner or the relationship has to be perfect.
Ladies, what do you think of the, “You complete me,” phrase?