Buddahist thoughts on dating
My understanding of attachment is that it’s not about what we have or don’t have, but what our expectations of them are.
Is it possible to be in a committed sexual relationship and follow the Buddha’s teaching on non-attachment?Does loving someone deeply by definition mean we’re attached to them?A truly healthy individual is one who is complete by herself, and doesn’t need to depend on anything or anyone else to feel whole and content.I don’t mean we should go it alone and isolate ourselves from others.
Sunada doesn’t see these ideas as contradictory, and explores what an enlightened relationship might look like. If he were to die tomorrow, of course I would be devastated.This year, my husband David and I will mark 27 years of being happily married. And am I completely unselfish in my regard for him? After all, what if he were to come home one day and say, “Sunada, I met a new woman and we love each other very much.” A completely other-regarding response would be, “I’m happy for you! So does that make me a bad, overly-attached Buddhist? First of all, let’s clarify what the Buddha said about sexual relationships.