Dating a puerto rican man
Author’s note: This post was written in August of last year, but I remixed it a bit. When I read Tracy Renee Jones’s “Aye Papi…………One Woman’s Love Affair With Latino Men” a year ago, I will admit, I was stoked.An account from a Black Woman on her romances with Latino guys? Typing in “Black woman and Latino man” yields very few results. To all the Black Girls and Brown boys in healthy, happy relationships…keep on keeping on.
I mean forums from the 2000s detailing someone’s experiences are fine and dandy pero dame mas. ‘Aye Papi’ is one of the few pieces that dares to document Black and Brown love. What do you all think about intercultural/racial/ethnic dating?
So, instead of complaining about the absence of info on the subject, I decided to throw in my two cents on the Jones piece. I would have liked to see more mention of the diversity within Latinidad.
And before you throw the “[email protected] come in all colors” shade at me, for the purpose of this piece I am refering to non-black identifying [email protected] Growing up, I’d hear that Blacks and Latinos share a similar background, but I was also told that we were very different.
When I say “Black”, I am refering to African Americans. Our similar background was that both of our communities triumphed against discrimination. Now, I do question the part about Latino men being “a little less damaged behind racial disenfranchisement” because Afrolatino men encounter many of the same racial bias that their African American counterparts do.
As I’ve said before, I love all flavors but I have a special place in my heart for Latinos (of all races, colors, etc). Hearing another Black women share her story, inspired me to do a bit more research. Yes, to Black women expression Strength is displayed anytime Black women bare our souls and talk about our encounters with racism, love or any other thing that requires vulnerability. I know many people carry the “tan skin color” but from reading this story, I get the impression that Afro-Latino, Asian Latinos and Indigenous Latinos are not included in this definition of “Latino”.
After all, Black and Brown relations don’t just take place at forums, discussions and in history books. Even in our happiness and comedy, our expression comes first. I too, have dated Latino guys, and while none of them have ended up my long term beau, I have learned a lot about culture, language and the ways in which racism works within the Latino communities that I was involved in. Unfortunately, that history of diversidad has been suppressed in the media, our schools, our history books and sometimes our experiences so I cannot assume this was the writer’s point of view. This piece reminded me of sayings I heard while growing up “Latino men have a similar background as Black men, though a little less damaged behind racial disenfranchisement and a lot more aware of individual civility, community engagement and shared culture,” says Jones.