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But no matter how much I tried to stay true to my belief that anything is possible in love, there was no escaping that I am three years out of my marriage while he is a mere three weeks.
This guy's giddy openness about starting life anew reminded me of just how I felt at that juncture.
There has been plenty written on the perils of the rebound. Even more than an ending love, all that pain and torment was really about contending with unresolved heartbreak from my divorce.
The old maxim suggests that the recently heart-broken is too angry/vulnerable/hurt to be truly open to a new love. But I needed to go through that rebound and the subsequent pain.
The term may also refer to a romantic relationship that a person has during the rebound period, or to the partner in such a relationship.
Someone who is "on the rebound," or recently out of a serious dating relationship, is popularly believed to be psychologically incapable of making reasonable decisions regarding suitable partners due to emotional neediness, lingering feelings towards the old partner, or unresolved problems from the previous relationship.
Rebound relationships are believed to be short-lived due to one partner's emotional instability and desire to distract themselves from a painful break up, and those emerging from serious relationships are often advised to avoid serious dating until their tumultuous emotions have calmed.
The term's use dates to at least the 1830s, when Mary Russell Mitford wrote of "nothing so easy as catching a heart on the rebound".
I also sensed a vulnerability and neediness that was woefully familiar -- in this man I could see myself two years ago when I, too, first ventured into post-divorce dating.
By all outward appearances we should be planning our second marriage by now: In addition to the crazy chemistry, we're both creative, ambitious people who share sensibilities about money, child rearing, politics, travel, style -- and a love for divey ethnic restaurants.
He is one of the most brilliant people I've known, open, affectionate, thoughtful and physically gorgeous in all his points of reference.
The rebounder is at risk of attaching too quickly to the wrong person, and those dating a rebounder are subject to wandering into the line of fire of scatter-shot devotion. It served as a critical point of reference through which I dealt with the dissolution of my marriage.
When that relationship ended, it hurt like a motherfucker! I just called off a month-long liaison with a man so recently divorced that his clothes were still packed in the suitcases with which he removed them from his marital home.