Dating after a 4 year relationship
If you would toss over a potential suitor for the chance to talk to your ex, your heart is probably still invested in your past relationship. If it would change your focus from your date to your ex, it may be an indication that you are not quite over the break up of the relationship.If you come upon a picture of your ex and it brings up fond memories that put a smile on your face, you may have moved past the hurt of your break up.If seeing the picture makes your heart drop, you probably should take some more time before you start dating again.It is a time to come to terms with your loss so that you can move on to a brighter day.
If you can have a friendly phone call with your ex and it does not affect your mood or fill your thoughts for the rest of the day, you may be in a good place to start dating again.
If a phone call stirs up all kinds of thoughts and emotions, your heart probably needs more time to heal.