Dating an attractive woman
I know I’ve gone on a bit of a tangent here, Ashley, because it’s very rare that we hear that the root of someone’s problems stems from being too attractive, but I believe that is the case.
Some of the most attractive women I know in Los Angeles—tall blondes with thin waists and big boobs—are 40 and single, because nice guys don’t approach them and slimy guys are always on the make.
My friends all have boyfriends, and I’m really looking to settle down. By the way, it never gets farther than kissing with me. Men leap to attention and whisper to each other before approaching. As a result, you become a lifelong target—a trophy for men to bag.
I realize that if they don’t stick around because I won’t have sex with them, then at least I know. It seems that attractive girls only get guys that want to sleep with them. Yes, the pretty girl has more dates than she needs and probably has a waiting list a mile long. Well, if you’re a pretty girl or you know a pretty girl, you know exactly what’s wrong. And make no mistake about it, most men want to bag you. I’m as sensitive a guy as you’re going to find in terms of how I communicate with women, but I can still remember the rush of dating a Perfect 10.
Their constant validation makes them feel important.
Their ulterior motives make them feel used and disposable.
Put it this way—when I was single, if I had a chance to sleep with…I don’t know…who is the most distasteful female celebrity? To me, that’s the perfect metaphor—very attractive women ARE celebrities. And while it might seem like a great ride being a celebrity, tell that to poor Britney. Or any of the people who crumble from the pressure and attention foisted upon them.
I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, but the date will go really well and things tend to either move really slow, I won’t hear from them after our date for a week or so, or not at all. You can come across as aloof even if you’re just shy. You’re given things by men for no reason (Free dinners! This is the same thing that afflicts celebrities, by the way. But the point is, by being singled out for being attractive, you’re never, ever considered “normal”…Dear Ashley, Today, I’m going to take a controversial stance. Does the pretty girl have the same issues as the fat girl? It was as if her magical glow rubbed off on me in some way when she walked into a room. I wouldn’t want to have to make pillow talk, or cook her breakfast, or call her the following day.And if I can be seduced by physical attraction, and the glory that comes with landing such a specimen, I would have to assume that 95% of the red-blooded, conscience-free men would feel the same way. I just want to have the meaningless experience and cheap thrill that comes along with sex with a celebrity. Their mere presence makes people excited, nervous, fearful, giddy.What’s really difficult for pretty girls is trying to assess when a guy IS sincere.
I am 25 years old and have never been in a serious relationship.I am a very attractive girl and I tend to meet guys easily and go on dates mostly every weekend. You’re catered to so frequently that you may lack some kindness, empathy or social grace.