Dating an older teen boy
I don’t think it is acceptable behavior for either sex. We hadn’t even pulled out of the school driveway when my phone rang. I haven’t called her mother, but wonder if I still should. Has it really changed in the past couple of decades? If I had teenage daughters would I be seeing it from a completely different perspective?My 13 year old son had a girlfriend for a few months, let’s call her Glenn. Along the lines of, Then they reached the place of being intrusive. I would want to know if my child was behaving that way. Alternate titles I considered for this post: Why I Still Practice My Lamaze Breathing. I had watched that show, all the while cringing with embarrassment, with my mother, who told me that was the reason you always made sure you had a dime with you. Remember the tv show when Blair was in the back of a van with a boy who was trying to force himself onto her, that was the message I grew up with. When my kids were younger and the subject of them dating would come up I would say that I wasn’t going to allow dating until they were married. My only experiences thus far in the teenage world of dating has been as the mother of boys. Either that or her brothers will scare off any boy that dares to come near her. They are the ones pressuring the girls to go further. And my hope is that having six brothers takes the mystery out of boys and that she won’t want to date, knowing that they are gross, farting, burping, smelly creatures. Typically we think of boys as being the aggressors in dating situations.One mother told me of the explicit text messages her son was receiving from a girl at all hours of the night. He basically told her that she was not nice and he didn’t really like her anymore. I have been closely monitoring to see if Glenn continues her controlling and mean ways.
More and more as I witness the teen boy-girl relationships I am surprised at how aggressive the girls seem to have become, compared to what I remember when I was a teenager. Upon hearing the news I think I managed not to do a fist pump in the air until I was in the next room alone.
I asked him about this and he said that Glenn was always mad at him and he had no idea why.