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11-Sep-2015 16:15

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On the other hand, it got me thinking about the "let's bare it all process." It's about putting all your cards on the table on your first date, and to see if the person is a match beyond physical attraction.

I am 35 right now, and I'd like to have a family someday.

He kept talking about how he'd like to see me again, or even better, spend the night with me.

I was so offended that he wouldn't even pretend to make a move to pay his share. Another time, I went with a guy who described himself as "an entrepreneur, working for himself, with a good savings record." And after a few more dates, I found out he was merely a temp worker, with more personal loans than savings. Someone who says let's save a week so we can go on holidays next summer, and is true to his word.

While I wouldn't ask someone for his credit score on the first date, I think knowing a bit more about his financial situation is important. A few months back, I went on a date and told the guy I was a blogger, yes my sites make money, yes I also have a guest house in Guatemala, yes I am a landlady, and yes I write about money all day so I know how to save and invest it.

I decided to end it abruptly and asked him to drive me home.

Doesn’t the value of being self-sufficient come in not having to worry about someone supporting you?

I would be back to square one at 37, with the odds of making my dream a reality even slimmer. No wonder there are cases of "debt infidelity," where your significant other racks up debt and you only find out when trying to buy a house together.

This gives men the freedom to choose a partner based on what matters most – character, kindness, fun, humor, compatibility – as opposed to mere earning potential. So why do women treat being high-earners like it’s a curse?

I cut the night short and never contacted him again. Someone who can take me on a date once in a while without me having to worry about how he is going to pay for it.

In college, I dated a very responsible, but broke, student. We'd take a train or hitch-hike somewhere and then camp in the wild, or pick wild berries and make jams at home together; we made each other cards for Christmas. Had that same broke guy faked a higher status and swiped our dates on his card, he would not have been so attractive. I want a partner in life, an equal that will put his fair share in the relationship, and that includes money.

By baring it all on the first date, awkward as that may seem, I am saving a lot of time and staying away from potential heartbreaks.

The article points out what I’ve observed previously: the issue these days isn’t so much that the male schoolteacher is “intimidated” by the high-paid female advertising executive (there are some, but you don’t want them anyway), but rather that the high-paid ad exec refuses to date the schoolteacher. Isn’t the point of being independently wealthy so that you can do what you want, when you want?