Did you see me and think “She has far too high an opinion of herself, she needs bringing down a peg or two”? I've already lost 15, and I've a stone and a half to go. A talented illustrator, who collects Manga comics and wants to visit Japan as soon as possible. I'll say “if”.) the time comes that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as I do now.
You're cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. I really, really am), I can't say the same about your figure.
So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed my body would let me down. I don't want to be lying there next to you, and you asking me why I'm not hard.
We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke and adore each other and.... I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a girl because what you have in that mind of yours is utterly unique, and I really really love it.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm trying to avoid bigger pain in the future by telling you now so we don't have to go through that embarrassment. With all the red hot lusts of a man and all the failings of a man and I'm sure of my own body and its needs. We all have a good friend who we look at ruefully and think “you're lovely, but you just don't tickle my pickle”.
You may think are all my profile pictures are "FGASs" (That's Fat Girl Angle Shots – pictures from angles that slim and flatter the girl.
I like to think I come across as a confident, happy woman.
But could this be the very reason you have targeted me? I can tell you exactly how overweight I am – 20 pounds. Does that mean that I can't love and enjoy my body now? What truly concerns me, the real reason I'm responding so publicly, is the fact that you have a 13 year old daughter. Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem so that if (I'll be kind.
And I'm ashamed to say, for a few moments, it worked.
You stirred a dormant fear that every woman who was ever a teenage girl has – that it doesn't matter how funny you are, how clever, how kind, how passionate, how loyal, how determined or adventurous or vibrant – if you're a stone overweight, no one will ever find you desirable.
On Monday I went on a first date with a man I met on Tinder. After a couple of drinks we moved on to a restaurant. It wasn't earth-shattering, but all in all it was a fairly standard Pleasant Evening. I really enjoyed your company and actually adore you. So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and God... He walked me to the train station, where we kissed. It's the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing image, or listen to a piece of music you love, it has that instant reaction in you that makes you crave more.