Dating someone with a child
Common reactions to a new relationship include resentment, fear, jealousy and competitiveness.Go ice skating, take a day hike, visit the zoo or attend a sporting event.Activities such as those offer low-pressure ways of becoming acquainted with each other.You may consider bringing the child a small gift to show your good will and sincere interest in him, such as baseball cards for a collector or new crayons for an aspiring artist.Don’t bring anything extravagant, which he may perceive as an effort to buy his affection.Ask the child for help planning-requesting his opinion can help get the relationship off to a good start.
Children (especially young children) quickly can become attached to someone new and, consequently, may be confused or hurt if the relationship ends.
If your date wants you to meet her son right away, suggest that she introduce you as a friend.
Once your relationship becomes somewhat serious, try to get to know her son gradually, without attempting to rush or force the relationship or stepping in as a parental figure.
Plan an outing that is fun and that requires minimal interaction.
What kind of reactions can I expect from his daughter? But more than likely, she will be upset by your relationship.
Many children of divorced parents still have a lingering hope that their parents will reunite, and you are a sign that her parent’s relationship really is over.