Don’t say anything about her photos, unless you’re asking where she was travelling. If she’s on an online dating site, you can bet that she is bored or disgusted 95% of the time. Profiling Your first message is only as good as your profile.
If you’ve gone far enough to send her a message, she already knows you find her attractive. Before responding, she will read your entire write-up (yes, the whole thing) and decide whether or not the two of you are aligned.
– In the online dating world, women are inundated with messages every day.
Most of these messages are a complete waste of their time. You don’t have to be a professional writer to grab her attention, but you do need to put a little effort in.
Poor grammar just leads her to think that you’re a) lazy or b) you wear a lot of Ed Hardy. A woman who is looking for a relationship is going to need a different approach than a lady who is just wants a one night stand (not that there’s anything wrong with that).
You can assess which one she is by reading her profile.
The more she writes and the more intelligent and well spoken she sounds, the more impressive you’ll need to be in your initial message. Don’t just skim (except the music/movies section…because, seriously, who is reading those? If you skim, you’re likely to end up commenting on the same things that everyone else is.She is more likely to respond if you’ve put the effort in.