Ethics of dating a coworker
Recently, I started talking online with a new guy who made me feel all of the tingles and energy that signal the beginning of an exciting new relationship.I wasn’t prepared when he suddenly dropped a bomb on me: He had genital herpes.When we met offline, we became intimate very quickly, but we abstained from having intercourse.He told me I could take as much time as I needed to feel comfortable having sex with him.
If you can asymptomatically shed the virus from any point of your body and it can infect any point of another person’s body, isn’t any type or location of herpes just…herpes?
A week went by, and we continued to abstain from sex, although we were seeing each other almost daily at this point. I already knew I had HSV I — typically expressed orally as cold sores on the mouth — but my partner wasn't sure if he had HSV I or HSV II.
As a woman with a deep-seated fear of HIV and plenty of education on the subject, I realized that I hadn’t spent much time studying the ramifications of the herpes simplex virus (HSV). A common misconception is that HSV I is exclusive to the mouth and HSV II is exclusive to the genitals.
Not everyone has symptoms, but this doesn't mean you can't pass the virus to others.
In fact, the majority of Americans have at least one form of the herpes virus, and you can get it from kissing, fucking, sharing a drink, or basically any form of close contact with a mucous membrane.
After brushing up on my herpes facts, I felt incredibly vulnerable.