Hanging out vs dating girl
Men, in order to avoid rejection (and possibly effort), will do what is easiest. They won’t approach the woman who they want to get to know because she just might be out of his league.
They will grab at the apple on the bottom branch, because hey, it’s easier.
Calling a girl to actually ask her out on a date has become a last minute “Hey, want to hang out?
” text that implies no effort or real meaning whatsoever. When you are getting to know someone, a date should be planned. I think we are losing social skills despite “social media” that make people more uncomfortable around one another and perhaps contribute to less of a willingness to actually form a real life connection that doesn’t require a friend request. We see this in the job market, we see it with technology, and we are seeing it with significant others. The dignity of standing by someone when things get difficult?
Gen-X’ers, Gen Y-ers, Gen-Whatever’ers who are having a hard enough time navigating massive student loan debts, high rents, and a difficult job market. Maybe hoping to bump into another one every once in awhile and ask how to get to port, but everybody’s navigation seems to be broken.
To add the icing on the cake, they are floundering through the dating world slash hookup culture and quickly discovering that nobody knows what the hell is going on. I think a big part of this is the fact that people [particularly younger men and women] have completely lost sight of what ‘dating’ actually means.
It doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive, but it should actually bear some resemblance to a series of events that you put some conscious effort into in order to ensure both parties actually enjoy themselves. Everything just seems to be a placeholder to keep us busy until something better comes along. The integrity of upholding the promises you made long after the mood that you made them in, has past? And we are wondering why everyone is always complaining about the opposite sex. These questions can be confusing to people who have not yet defined their therefore we are not learning to identify our weaknesses and improve them. And it is taking the concept of dating and courtship down with it.
Our young men are also getting flooded with mixed messages. Men find themselves perpetually trapped in the ‘friend zone’ and wonder why. Those men are not putting in the effort to actually discover and to do something together that would allow you to actually have a real conversation.