Highly sensitive people and dating
Let’s talk first about the tactic of defend themselves against the anxiety they might experience by engaging in actions that violate their conscience.By finding reasons that seem to make their actions more benign, appropriate, acceptable, or understandable, any qualms of conscience are assuaged.But this scenario, of course, assumes that the person actually has a well-developed conscience.And there are a handful of tactics covert aggressors tend to use more frequently – tactics that are generally the most effective in manipulating others – especially neurotics.Recognizing these manipulation tactics and knowing how to respond to them are the keys to personal empowerment.Because it’s so unrealistic to list all the possible ways a covertly aggressive individual can get the better of another person, I find it helpful to focus attention on the more common tactics CAs employ and to explain in depth why the tactics are so effective.
Covertly aggressive people are among the most manipulative personalities.
They use certain tactics to accomplish two things simultaneously: 1) conceal their aggressive intentions, and 2) invite you to fear, be doubtful, or optimally, to concede or give in.
When a covert aggressor (CA) knows his or her “opponent” inside out (i.e.
knows their sensitivities, fears, insecurities, core beliefs, level of conscientiousness, etc.), a vast opportunity opens up for using that person’s traits (often, their most socially desirable traits) against them in a covert war for dominance.
I can’t stress enough how capable the more skilled manipulators are of using just about any behavior imaginable to accomplish their aims.This is especially true when the manipulator has a “good read” on the character of their target of manipulation.