How to write a good dating email
A very well-spoken and clearly an educated guy, he sent me a message detailing a situation with a girl he knew... The basic gist of today's post is, basically, that this -- what we're about to talk about -- is how you write online dating messages and emails that don't get ignored...
and, in fact, get you exactly what you want: responses, phone numbers, dates, and success.
In fact, just today it was reposted on the Huffington Post! In fact, I probably respond to more second emails than first emails.
(Can not add link because I totally made that up.) But as we suggested last week, we are not done with Olivia, our resident hot chick. When I go through my inbox, I do read every message.
After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website.
The internet is still abuzz from INAM’s shocking expose, Match From a Hot Girl’s Perspective. Here’s Olivia’s suggestion: I honestly don’t mind when someone emails me twice.
I don't usually start off a post with the impact points right at the beginning.
But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.
So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.
So what if hot chicks get deluged with awfully mean and awfully written emails – they’re hot chicks. I was a little surprised at your ruthlessness, but hey, I’m a hot chick. (I’m working on a catchphrase here.) This week’s lesson from Olivia is far more practical. When you get a lot of emails, it’s very easy for most of them to just get lost and drowned out, even ones that I liked. I TOULD YOU about the power of the second email months ago, and I’m happy to see Olivia agrees.
No, there will be no more stories of woe, no more pleas for sympathy for the complicated predicament of being an attractive lady online. That might sound like a lot of time, but it generally only takes 10-30 seconds to read a message.
I read your emails, and I get it: you don’t give a shit. When someone starts off saying they’re emailing me again, it’s like I feel bad for ignoring them and thus I pay more attention to them.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.