Indonesian dating culture
Jakarta The (British) company my husband works for had an Indonesian lady come & tell us about faux-pas other expats had made & what was taboo in Indonesia.About 3 weeks before our move (from Texas) they decided to send someone to teach us basic Indonesian, not a good move as 3 weeks before moving across the globe you're not in the right mind set to listen or learn. I can understand most of what the locals say, but I do not speak with confidence. Not really, since I have traveled within Asia for work prior to marriage as a translator/interpreter.I cannot be angry at a country or it's people for not being like me or not always understanding me. After all, I am their guest & it's up to me to make the most of what they have to offer, not complain.To those people who do not like Indonesia & moan about it all the time, I say GO HOME!! You cannot get angry & shout at someone in Indonesia, they will close down totally.Of course, it is really annoying when someone takes your order at a restaurant, repeats it more than once & then brings you the wrong meal.On the whole I'm happy & can laugh but it's only human to get more than slightly irritated at some people's lack of initiative.Expat Exchange's partner, International Moving Quotes, offers you a simple and hassle free solution to plan your move. I read "Culture Shock Jakarta" amongst many other publications & the web. So many people speak English & many western commodities are easily found here (unless the government is having one of it's temporary crackdowns or buy Indonesian Only phases).
That said, nobody is EVER rude to you, unlike in the west.
I've lived in Jakarta for 3 years, some expats (the ones who see themselves as superior) can't hack it for much longer & become angry & ugly expats. I have always considered myself privileged to be European, not just because I'm born to a truly democratic country, but one where the standard of living has been high.