Internet dating profile picture
Now, you’re always told to look happy and make eye contact in social situations, but at least for your online dating photo, that’s just not optimal advice.
For women, a smile isn’t strictly better: she actually gets the most messages by flirting directly into the camera, like the center and right-hand subjects above.
Men’s photos are most effective when they look away from the camera and lame got us all excited. In terms of getting new messages, the My Space shot is the single most effective photo type for women.
We at first thought this was just because, typically, you can kind of see down the girl’s shirt with the camera at that angle—indeed, that seems to be the point of shot in the first place—so we excluded all cleavage-showing shots from the pool and ran the numbers again.
In looking closely at the astonishingly wide variety of ways our users have chosen to represent themselves, we discovered much of the collective wisdom about profile pictures was wrong.
For interested readers, I explain our measurement process, and how we collected our data, at the end of the post.
Please use your PERSONAL name or initials and not your business name and do not put your website in the comment text, as both come off like spam.
Women smile about 50% more than men do and make that flirty-face four times as often.Since I started Insider Internet Dating, lots of guys have written in and told me about horrible experiences meeting women who… Check it out in the video 🙂Comment Rules: Remember what Fonzie was like? So, I made you a quick video that explains the “Deceptive photos” some women use in their profiles, and the bigger lesson: how to tell if she’s bigger than you think BEFORE you meet her. Ask good questions, have fun and thanks for adding to the conversation!Notice that, however, that flirting from the camera is the single worst attitude a woman can take.
Certain social etiquettes apply even online: if you’re going to be making eyes at someone, it should be with the person looking at your picture.
No change: it’s still the best shot; better, in fact, than straight-up boob pics (more on those later). The male “Ab Shot” has the same reputation as the My Space Shot—it’s an Internet cliché that supposedly everyone thinks is only for bozos.