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I just block ignorant guys now.”‘Transartist’ is just one of the many trans men using Grindr, Scruff, Mister or other gay dating apps.
While most users will know the treacherous and dirty-picture-filled waters these apps provide, those who identify as transgender are lucky to find anybody to treat them as more than an exotic specimen or a self-help book.
The digital dating sphere can prove tricky, and bruising, for the trans user.
One Grindr user, ‘Leapolitan,’ a trans woman who has been using queer apps and websites since before her transition, sent me an archive of conversations with men who talked to her in ways that varied from condescending to downright ludicrous, including one man whose opening gambit was to call her an unsexy witch.
He has not experienced opened antagonism on the apps, but has found himself used as a fount of information, whether it be other trans users seeking advice, or any number of other--to use his phrase-- ‘boner killers’.“There was one guy who I talked to recently who had cancer, or something, who lost the ability to produce testosterone,” Gabe says.
He identifies as transgender on Scruff but not always on Grindr.Allegations of transphobia are not new in the world of gay online dating.