My friend dating my crush
And that created a whole shitshow of drama and insecurity for me. If you're ever feeling temptation island, I advise you to think about how YOU would feel if your ex and BFF hooked up.
It didn't feel good worrying if he would trade in our friendship just for a forbidden make out with my best friend. As far as I'm concerned, there's only one rule when it comes to friends dating exes and that is: YOU CAN' T DO IT. If that doesn't get your dick limp, I don't know what will.
I don't think those are the rules of feminism so much as the rules of human decency. That's some Dawson-Joey-Pacey kind of betrayal, and I can only imagine the level of hurt you've been feeling.
For a moment, things got so bad that my ex and I stopped talking for a bit, but we're fine now, thankfully. While I wouldn't mind seeing my ex go hook up and be happy with a stranger, there is an undeniable sting when it's with someone you know. Maybe if we didn't have the capacity to feel jealousy and insecurity, we could all just have a big happy orgy.
We met up recently, and it turned out, like with most things, to be a matter of miscommunication. And I don't think you should ever apologize or justify that sting.
Basically, I encouraged my gay BFF to hang with an ex of mine because why not? The second I set it up though, I regretted it, because I started thinking about what would happen if they hit it off and crushed on each other. We don't betray the ones we love the most, or at least we try not to!
Even though I no longer had feelings for my ex, that didn't mean I would want him shacking up with my best friend! Luckily, they didn't hook up, but I felt like my ex would have if given the opportunity. I understand that no one is perfect and that shit does, in fact, sometimes happen, but your best friend and your ex hooking up is a BIG dump to take.
If ur best friend dated ur crush u would most likely feel betrayed and not want to be friends with them anymore (not me, just how I assume the majority of people would feel).
At least if it was ur worst enemy u would already hate that person.