New to dating after divorce
Three: Release Expectations and View Each Encounter as a Lesson This is a big one. If you enter each date excepting a positive experience, you will be disappointed at least some of the time.
The following are my suggestions for your ten commandments of dating after divorce.
One: Your “Must Haves” Take some time to generate this list; do not assume what it contains.
I loved to run and lift weights, and enjoyed the social aspect of exercise, whereas he only exercised to lose weight and even then was very private about it.
I knew that I wanted someone that would join me on a run or meet me at the gym.
You may be surprised to realize that there are aspects of your ex that you want again or perhaps characteristics that were not important before but are now.
For me, my ex was never a match for me physically (I’m not talking about intimacy here; we were an excellent match in the bedroom).
Once you have your lists generated, keep them handy and allow them to be modified or updated as you date and meet new people. Try to enter every encounter with an open and curious mind, ready to receive the lessons to come.
I also wanted someone for whom fitness and exercise was a way of life, not just an opportunityto cinch in the belt a bit.As you list your “must haves,” try not to censor them; your subconscious may know more about what you need than your rational mind does at this point.