Not ready for dating
We hit it off immediately and ended up hooking up (not sex) the first night we met.I called her a couple days later to try to meet up with her (for a real date) and sort of got the brush off twice, so I just let it go.She asked if we could, “hang out and hook up,” which I assume meant friends with benefits, and I told her I wasn’t interested in doing that, because I liked her too much to think that she’d be dating someone else at the same time.Anyway, she said she thought that when she came out that she would just be hooking up with girls, and that it would just be easy, again no strings.Then, I ran into her at an event a little while later and it was pretty clear that she was still interested in me, so we hooked up again.She blew me off again after that and I was like whatever.
Dinner turned to breakfast and we had just an absolutely incredible time together. Frankie, I could really use some good advice on a situation that has got me completely turned upside down.I met this girl through a mutual friend who had recently just come out.Even though she was sending me totally conflicting signals, I knew deep down that I’d never really connected with someone so quickly in my life (and I do not feel that way easily about people, trust me), and I was pretty sure she felt the same way about me.
From the beginning and through each subsequent meeting, I learn more and more about how she’s “absolutely terrified” of the whole gay thing, and is pretty religious, so I am sure that plays a huge part in her feelings about all of it.And when it came to me she said, “I wasn’t supposed to meet you yet,” as in, I really like you, but I am just not ready right now.