I see this frequently with my hardworking clients, who put in 12 hours a day at the office, maybe fit in a workout and a meal after work, and start all over again the next day. One smart, successful client of mine always stressed about how busy she was and how this made her search for love particularly taxing.
This is not to say that you should be any less devoted a father.
But you owe it to yourself, your daughter, and your sanity to lead a life that does not eat up all of your free time. Despite the fact that love is more important than anything, we maintain the mindset that work comes first.
My question is: How do I even go about looking, when the only time I spend away from work involves my daughter? Before I give it to you, I want other readers to ask yourselves if you can sympathize with Mike’s predicament. What I will suggest, however, is a re-evaluation of three things in Mike’s life Time is a precious commodity. That’s life, and it’s way more difficult to create opportunities in love when you’re pulled in so many directions. Consider these questions: – Despite my probing questions, I want to acknowledge that if you have sole custody during the week and your wife works on the weekends, you have virtually NO breathing room.
It’s me, I’m sure, but I don’t seem to even try when I’m out with my daughter, doing all the things it takes to keep my house, my daughter, and myself in order. I have no problems meeting people in the regular bar scene…I don’t seem to make the time. You don’t have to be the primary caregiver to a 14 month old; you just have to be too busy to find love. And instead of trying to create something out of nothing, you need to get your life into better balance before you worry about dating.
I’m a 33 year old, single father with primary care of a 14 month old daughter. Make no mistake about it: being busy is the greatest and most believable excuse for being single that you can find.Her mother has a weekends-only job and never has her overnights or even in the evening. Which is why you’re not going to hear me suggest to Mike that he ditch his job, ditch his daughter and spend 24 hours a day finding love. And, as an adult, you have responsibilities that don’t simply abate because you wish them away. You still have to make sure your children get fed each night.