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Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.
There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships.
And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother….
This is the most compelling reason behind why younger women might go for older men: they’re daddy substitutes.
Time creates wisdom – but it also creates responsibilities and complications – mortgage, kids, career, etc.
All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.
An older man’s going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess – the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up.
Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date a man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER? Before any 40+ people get all hot and bothered about this – I am not judging you. I do think people improve with age (my 38-year-old girlfriend is nodding). She doesn’t need a guy who will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43.But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows who Limp Bizkit is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. When I was in my late 30’s I became involved with someone 15 yrs. The age difference did not seem especially significant during the 5 yrs we were together.