Pacing a relationship dating
THE BOTTOM LINE: When it comes to dating, always resist the temptation to change.
Instead, intensify your personality: If you're shy, take a book to the bar; if you're the life of the party, initiate the body shots; if you're a one-woman guy, keep holding out for that long-term relationship.
By being honest about who you are—to yourself and the world—you'll exude an inner confidence that will effortlessly draw women to you like never before. THE SHY GUY You're the guy who just wants a steady girlfriend—so much so that you may drive a girl away with your tendency to smother early on, or end up missing out on fun with the guys once you've got her. Be honest with yourself about your goals for long-term monogamy; despite what your buddies may say, there's nothing wrong with wanting what you want. That means no more taking a girl to an event such as a wedding just so you don't have to go alone—even though you have no interest in pursuing anything more with her.
If you do so, you just may lose an opportunity to meet your next girlfriend.
Sure, it's only a movie—and you know he's the writer—but it's believable because he's always himself, without apologies.
Whether it's confidence or self-assuredness—whatever you call it—nearly 80% of the 1,800 women we recently surveyed identified it as the sexiest trait a man can possess.
Now, in real life, Woody went on to marry his daughter, and while we wouldn't recommend that to anyone—not even the biggest losers—it does show that being the man you really are is truly the easiest way to get the woman you want.
She'll see that you're anything but desperate, and this sets a tone for the future when you won't want to spend every single waking minute with her.
Also, don't talk about settling down and having babies on the first date.It's OK to be honest—telling her you're not much of a player will score you points—but she might not like long-term talk right off the bat.