Rules dating your ex
She’s got a friend I’ve always found really attractive, and recently the friend mentioned to my ex-girlfriend that she’s interested in me too.
My ex says she’s okay with it if we go out, but a couple of my girl friends tell me that I shouldn’t even consider asking her out, no matter what my ex-girlfriend says, so I’m not sure what to do. —TM, Los Angeles, California The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy I’m not a big believer in having a lot of dating rules, but I do hold true to the Golden Dating Rule—do unto significant others as you’d have done to you. Not literally—I’m not recommending fetishes—but see things from her perspective on this.
Your ex may say she’s fine with it because otherwise she has to say no, look petty, and fight with both you and her friend. Sometimes you have to walk it in someone else’s shoes.
(What kind of friend says she’s interested in her friend’s ex, anyway? The straight woman’s perspective: Rebecca Brown For God’s sake, man, have you been awake, alive, or attentive on this planet—like EVER?
Even if someone isn’t your significant other anymore. I don’t care how over a girl I was, I’d have a pretty tough time if my ex started sleeping with my friend. And wouldn’t it burn you that the only reason they know each other is because of you? I don’t know how long your relationship was, but if it was of any significant time, this would be really awkward.
Sure, you say you and your ex are friends now and talk all the time.