Taking it slow while dating
I have been separated now for almost 6 months, although I have been both emotionally and physically removed from my marriage for almost a decade. I sat across from a woman who turned my dormant heart and soul flowing again and I simply can’t explain in words the feeling – it was something I almost didn’t recognize having been so long.
I was…am one of those guys who simply did not want to date. I had no idea she was divorced – she had no idea that I was getting a divorce. But we were never both “available” for either of us to act on our feelings. I guess in a way, we are going to take things slow but i really don’t want to mess things up.
If you really like this woman, there is nothing wrong with spending all your free nights with her.
“Take it slowly” to me means nothing more than don’t get married. Divorced Guy Grinning is a blog for men facing divorce and dating after divorce.
” Before I get into taking things slowly, I want to address your fear that you are going to “mess things up.” My opinion is that is impossible. Those things are in your control, and seem like an improbability.
As far as what you can’t control, (which is HER), don’t worry about it.
I also have no interest in dating others, and not because I reconnected with her – it’s just not who I am? I honestly could not wait to respond to this man, because I was jumping for joy while reading this!What I first want to say to this man is how happy I am that you are doing what you are supposed to be doing: enjoying life and love!!I think it is so wonderful that you have met someone (or reconnected) who turned your “dormant heart and soul flowing again! You could act like a jerk, say something really offensive, or not treat her nicely, and that would mess things up.A relationship is going to be what it’s going to be and is beyond our control a lot of the time. In your new relationship, it sounds like your pace is nothing short of someone running the 100 yard dash. It's kind of like hanging out with your platonic female divorced friend and hearing her perspective on your divorce and your love life issues.
I believe everyone is on their best behavior for at least 2 years, especially after a divorce, so my opinion would be DO NOT put a ring on her finger for at least 2 years.All that said, I disagree with Jason that you should “date a few different people.” I personally have never been very good at dating more than one person at a time.