The story of Peter and Hedy will help you find out which fits your connection and offers tips on making your relationship a peaceful validating one.
Hedy and Peter couldn’t go more than three days without some conflict.
When he made an effort to do so Hedy took him to task about buying them junk food on the way to school, and giving them extra pocket money. Not sharing beliefs, ideas and decision making cause conflict Hedy and Peter rarely shared family and home care taking duties.
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He also got angry when he wasn’t consulted before Hedy made decisions and took action.
Like the time she accepted an invitation to a party on behalf of them as a couple, but to which he didn’t want to go.
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Hedy wants Peter to take care of child care duties but doesn't approve of his methods Hedy wanted her husband to do the bed time duties with the kids when she was tired, but got upset that he took too long, was too lenient with story time, and indulged their youngest child when he cried for attention.
Hedy wanted Peter to take the kids to school in the morning and complained about his refusal to do it.