What to say when contacting someone on a dating site
It’s better to compliment someone’s profile than their looks as it shows that you’ve taken the time to learn more about them and aren’t objectifying them.Tell them what you’ve got in common – If you’ve found someone who shares your love of Wensleydale cheese and country fetes it’s a good idea to point out your shared interests.Using capitals only makes it look like you’re shouting and people might think that you haven’t worked out how to remove the Caps Lock.Don’t send contact details through straight away – When you’re in the safe confines of a dating site such as Muddy Matches you can report and block other members if you are offended by their messages.We’re not going to lie here, sending your first message is pretty daunting; so here are some tips to help you to make the first move.Keep it short and sweet – The most successful messages in our experience are less than five lines long.Remember to spell check – Spelling isn’t the easiest thing in the world, but make sure you triple check everything; especially if you’re using predictive text as it can lead to embarrassing mistakes.DON’T WRITE IN CAPITALS ONLY – Bizarrely a lot of people choose to write in only capitals in their message.
Flattery will get you everywhere – Everybody enjoys a compliment, but there’s a fine line between giving a friendly compliment and seeming creepy.Ask them a question about what they’ve written in their profile – If they say they love going on long walks in the countryside ask them where they like to walk.This shows that you’re interested in finding out more about them and aren’t a “me, me, me” kind of person.You could even be a bit cheeky and use the information to suggest a date, for example “There’s a great food festival in Edinburgh soon that I’m planning to head to”. ’ pages on Muddy Matches to see if anyone you fancy is going to a particular event and say in your message “I spotted that you’re going to the Henley Regatta too, maybe we’ll bump into each other”.
Comments like these make it easy for someone to say “yes it would be great to meet up at the event”.
It’s much more difficult to have to change your phone number or block someone’s emails; so we recommend that you do not give out your contact details until you have got to know someone through the messaging service.